Which person are you?

Have you ever gone out to dinner with someone who finds choosing an item from the menu torture? Making the decision about what to eat seems to “eat her up.” You find yourself shifting your weight in your seat or thinking to yourself “just get on with it.”

Or are you the person having trouble making the choice between a Caesar salad or the soup du jour?

Which person are you?

If you are the person finding it difficult to choose, then I challenge you to start with this choice as an exercise. Start with your menu choice as a way to learn to make decisions more easily. After all, what’s the worst that could happen? The hamburger your friend ordered looks like a better choice? OK. So quietly ask yourself why you didn’t get the burger.

Watch yourself, listen to yourself make this decision, and you will start to understand how you make choices about the larger issues in your life. That’s a good thing and worth “wasting” money on the “wrong” menu choice if that’s what happens. Or surprise–you may find that you ordered the best Caesar salad you ever had.

So next time you go out to eat, make the choice quickly and don’t labor over it. Practice makes for easier decision making. And you start to find out who you really are, not who you try to talk yourself into being.

2 thoughts on “Which person are you?

  1. OK, I used to be a person who couldn’t make a decision to save her life. I’ve learned from healing in the last decade or two that I had at least three issues.

    (1) First, I had so protected myself from harm in my early years that I couldn’t remember who I was. I really didn’t know what I wanted.

    (2) I didn’t value my own opinion and wasn’t used to asking myself, so even if I wanted something I wouldn’t even be able to hear or feel what I wanted.

    (3) Following patterns of survival, I assumed I would be wrong whatever I chose, and was afraid to commit to anything because it would be wrong and there would be consequences best avoided.

    The exercise for me probably would have been, like you say, just PICK something already and see how it turns out. Paying attention would have told me it turned out pretty darn OK most times.

    Of course I had (4) a very pessimistic attitude and a habit of seeing choices and life as half-empty back then, so who knows.


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